Non-Verbal Communication (Open Topic)

I have always been fascinated by the psychology of communication. It is interesting to note that in a formal interview the subject’s body language contributes over 60% of his/her impression on the interviewer. Clearly, this facet of our appearance and persona is understood to be better reflective of our true self than the words we speak. This was also highlighted by Ms. Lim during her presentation on non verbal communication in class in the early stages of this module.

However, the prevalent culture seems to have a major role in people’s perceptions of gestures and their connotations. For instance, cheek kissing as a gesture of friendliness or comfort is very common in Southern Europe, the Mediterranean, the Middle East and Latin America. The same gesture brings up associations with homosexuality in Asia, and is particularly inappropriate between members of opposite genders. This website on Afghan culture and social norms says “Between men eye contact is acceptable as long as it is not prolonged - it is best to only occasionally look someone in the eyes.” Deliberate avoidance of eye contact may be seen as a sign of weakness or discomfort in other places. I have personally experienced similar reactions from many Singaporeans upon maintaining eye contact during conversations. If you think you know why this may be so, do share in the comments section.

Similarly, many aspects of the Japanese work culture (refer here), for instance, the emphasis on ‘face’, or one’s image, and the persistent pressure to conform to accepted societal standards, seem totally at odds with the more ‘liberal’ Western principles. The traditional South Asian gesture of welcome by folded hands may be associated with subservience in the West.

The list is just endless. This brings me to my question. Can you think of any gestures that have one or more common and universally understood meaning(s)? Perhaps the hand-shake?